The Fireworks of New Love: Five Things to Know About New Relationship Energy
And NRE is…what exactly?
Who experiences NRE?
Most people starting off a new relationship experience NRE. If you find yourself constantly thinking about the person, texting them, calling them, and wanting to know everything about them, you might be stuck in the throes of NRE.
Isn’t that just infatuation, or puppy love?
Some people may call it that, but NRE is much more than that. While infatuation and puppy love may make the relationship seem trivial or superficial, NRE is just a phase that most couples go through and can be explored without exposing the negative side.
Why is it important to know about NRE?
Well, one of the things that can happen in relationships is that when the NRE starts to fade, people think that that means they are no longer in love with their partner. In fact, this is normal cooling off that happens in every relationship, and it’s not necessarily a reason to break up, but rather to have a conversation with your partner about how the relationship is changing and maturing. Also, just like knowing about what messages the media is trying to tell you about sex(Just Do It), just knowing something is present can help you to be aware when it is there.
What can I do when my NRE fades?
Like any stage in a relationship, this is a very important time to communicate with your partner about how you are feeling and how your feelings may be changing. Your partner may feel neglected or hurt, but as long as you feel like that person is worth a longer-term relationship, you should re-affirm your commitment to them. Remember that a relationship with a person shouldn’t just be about how they make you feel, but also who they are as a person. Because when the NRE fades, you can either have a great relationship where you share interests and have great conversation, or you can have one where you two have nothing in common and can’t even stand to be in the same room together. And with communication, you can easily figure this out.
Have Fun. Be Safe.
About Craig VanKempen
Craig Vankempen, LMSW, MPH is the Corner's resident Jack of all Trades. Not only does he have a lot of letters behind his name, he works with the Theatre Troupe, in the clinic flexing his therapist muscle, and has taken on the title of "Corner Health Center Sexy Sexpert Sexuality Blogger." A title that he may or may not have made up himself.Dating & Relationships, Sexual Health and tagged corner health center, dating, healthy relationship, relationship talk, vocabulary. Bookmark the permalink.